On Becoming a Dictator

 
(Pictured above L to R: Derek Engdahl, Servant Partners, me, Craig Greenfield, Servants to Asia's Urban Poor, Tim Lockie, InnerCHANGE, Chris Heuertz, Word Made Flesh.)
 
 
I gather yearly with the heads of four agencies that place men and women alongside the poor in order to bring solidarity, hope, and the love of Jesus. When I told them about the "Leadership Schmeadership" book I'm writing, Craig Greenfield responded in his awesome kiwi accent, “That’s funny. You’re writing about a leadership-crazed culture, and I can’t find anyone willing to step up to the plate to really lead.” The others nodded in agreement. Despite the cult of leadership in the western church, very few of the “friars” in their fellowships aspire to lead in places where leadership was really needed. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that their missions tend to attract those who are content just to walk alongside prostitutes, street kids and slum dwellers. Two of the four have the word “servant” in the name of their organizations, why should they expect type-A personalities to sign up?
 
 
But then I began to think about how little real, unabashed leadership I run into. With the barrage of leadership material in our bookstores and the subject of so many conferences, why am I in so many poorly led meetings? Why does there seem to be so little order in our communities and in our churches – so little significant progress benefiting all, especially the “least of these?” If God gave humans the gift of power in order to protect the weak and advance the common good, and if leaders are installed to wield that power, then why is more than a third of our planet trapped in desperate poverty? Why are 165 million children as young as five years-old forced to work? Why are there ten year old prostitutes and thousands dying daily of stupid things like diarrhea, and untold tons of grain rotting in warehouses while people starve to death? It is because the world lacks mature leadership undergirded by thoughtful submission.

If the solution to releasing unapologetic and strong leadership were a good book or a conference, then the problem would have been solved decades ago. But the thing I find implicit in at least the existence of tens of thousands of leadership books, and sometimes explicit in their content, is that we all ought to be leaders. I disagree. I believe that in our lust to bring out the leader in everybody we may have robbed leadership from the few who really should possess it and undermined the calling of all of us to follow well. The problem is not that we have too few people leading, it’s that we have too many leading who do not have the gift of leadership and not enough people offering to submit.

Why not identify the few who actually have the gift, call them into authority, invest them with real power, and follow them with all our hearts?

 

The Slave Mindset

Paul uses the word slave (doulos) or servant (diakonos) in every one of his letters. He calls himself Christ's slave a number of times and a "slave to all" once. Mostly he's tapping into the idea of being a bond servant - someone who is deeply beholden to someone else.
 

 

The cornerstone of Paul’s teaching on servanthood really comes in his letter to the church at Philippi, where he says that our mindset ought to be like the mindset that Jesus had when he set aside his God-ship and took on the essence of a slave, humbling himself to the sort of execution endured by Spartacus and the other slaves who revolted. (Phil. 2:6-8). This "slave" mentality is not so much about debasing ourselves as it is about exalting others. Paul tells the Philippians not to act out of selfish ambition but to, “regard others as better than yourselves,” not in a morally superior sense, but in the sense of seeking your neighbor’s well-being above your own. He admits that we are to look after our own interests … just not exclusively, nor primarily.
 

 

Without destroying our sense of self, or ignoring the need for healthy boundaries, we need to look at those around us as those in Asian society view their elders, or as a good host views a guest – with preferential esteem.

Education is the killer here for me. At some deep place within me – deeper than my conscious self – I don't regard people with little education as better than me. I know it sounds awful, but it's the dreaded truth. The funny thing is that I'm not that well educated. I graduated high school with a 2.6 GPA for goodness sake and failed my first college math course!
 

 

Of course I am kind and attentive to people who don't have much education, hanging out with and listening to them. I can even wax eloquent about the difference between wisdom and education, lifting up those who have no formal education but great life experience and plenty of wisdom to offer. But to take a friend with a learning disability to the store in the mindset of a servant caring for a revered benefactor, that is something I have not mastered. There is a lurking paternalism which prevents me from adopting the mind of Christ when I help people who, say, can’t read, or don’t know where China is on a map. Nothing at all like the "same attitude of Christ" as described in Phil. 2.

 

 
When I talk with the mentally ill or the developmentally disabled, offering to pray with them, it is often with a subtle feeling that I am praying for somebody who is needier and less complete than me. I have no problem "regarding as better" my family members, or the elders in my church, or my colleagues at work. But when I serve somebody who can't put a coherent sentence together, I unconsciously feel I've performed some noble act of condescension.

 

 
This blasted intellectual elitism is an insidious obstacle, getting in the way of becoming like Christ. I have been called to the carpet by mentally ill friends before. “Why is it that you offer to pray for me? Is it that you feel you're better than me?” they have asked. “Why don’t you seek me out to pray for you?” It’s as if they can hear in my offer to pray, a faint note of superiority.

I suppose there is a certain amount of esteem involved in giving someone my time, attention, prayer, or physical strength. But if I am honest - to really “regard others as better than yourself,” in my heart, mind and soul - this is an area of deep struggle and profound failure.

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"Jesus went throughout Galilee, teaching in their synagogues, preaching the good news of the kingdom, and healing every disease and sickness among the people. "

Matthew 4:23 (NIV)

 
 

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